This year almost every FTM nominee at the Trans Awards in LA have been featured on FTMFUCKER.com! So to celebrate we’re going to feature a different nominated FTM porn performer every day leading up to the awards show on Sunday!
ITS A REAL HUGE tie between James darling and Jaques LeFemme but if i had to throw it down : Jaques LeFemme, idk who came up with the ambiance and scene production but they are killa! and I love the interviews as well. :) goodluck ya’ll!
Just as dead bodies are absent from our language about meat, in descriptions of cultural violence women are also often the absent referent.
Rape, in particular, carries such potent imagery that the term is transferred from the literal experience of women and applied metaphorically to other instances of violent devastation, such as the ‘rape’ of the earth in ecological writings of the early 1970s. The experience of women thus becomes a vehicle for describing other oppressions. Women, upon whose bodies actual rape is most often committed, become the absent referent when the language of sexual violence is used metaphorically. These terms recall women’s experiences but not women.
Metaphorically, the absent referent can be anything whose original meaning is undercut as it is absorbed into a different hierarchy of meaning… The absent referent is both there and not there. It is there through inference, but its meaningfulness reflects only upon what it refers to because the originating, literal, experience that contributes the meaning is not there. We fail to accord this absent referent its own existence.
Carol J Adams, The Sexual Politics of Meat - A Feminist-Vegetarian Critical Theory - 20th Anniversary Edition (Continuum, 2010), pp. 67-8
Carol Adams on the construction and use of “absent referents”. We’ve probably all seen this done with “rape”.
I think another good example of this would be the use by white people of “lynching” to describe disagreements? I see the damage as three times over: once by the original violence of historical and contemporary lynchings, second by the erasure of the referent, namely Black victims of lynching, through appropriating the term “lynching”, and thirdly by its reversal when, for example, white bloggers whose racism is criticised in comments portray them/ourselves as victims of Black feminist “lynching”.
Through this process Black victims of lynching become the absent referent, white people gain a powerful new word to use to describe our situations, and we also get to perpetrate racist sadism through reversing and using the term - rubbing salt in the wound.
TL;DR: words mean stuff, don’t rip them out of context when they’re about specific oppressive shit
"i got you a fish mija cause you're a vegetarian, right?"
my family is fucking obsessed with eating meat. I’ve been asked by each individually why i don’t. The thing is I get why they do….colonialism…..poverty….blah blah blah. Although, my family is privileged enough to be able to afford most of any kind of foods they want, my aunt is a privileged univeristy professor with 3 computers and access to information. I understand that when they were raised, living in the church and the whole family was picking cotton and trying to survive, my grandpa slaughtered all the animals himself. It was a big deal. & i know i’m privileged enough to have access to information, and privileged to understand my emotional response to foods i eat, privileged to not be fearful of a violent system that makes my family, chosen family, friends sick and in pain. so i silently fall back and listen to their false information about food, and their incessant questioning of, “where do you get protein?” I feel very frustrated with them. Because I get sick & emotional/physical health deteriorates when i over consume processed foods and meats. & somehow i’m made out to be the picky, fancy eater…….. but “grandpa eats only chorizo, frijoles, queso, guiso, for 97 years and he is fine so why wouldnt you?” how about you shut the fuck up and let me do as i please with my body like i do with yours. Stop alienating me cause i would never do that to you. Ya’ll ripped apart an entire goat yesterday, and i just watched and tried my best to feel happy that my family was together and satisfied. but sometimes……i cant help but feel its all a facade and ultimately meaningless. ….even with my friends sometimes, i feel alienated. I think the dominant culture has forced shame on our bodies and our foods so much that its another slice of the pie of how it destroys communities………..